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Don't do it yourself



  ."Never never change your goal when you're feeling scared discouraged or depressed."
- Barbara Sher

If you don't get a lot of support from your family, or if your famliy simply doesn't undertand or believe in your projects. Don't let it discurage you. Family members can't give you a good idea of the worth of your endevor. They are erither too much in admiration or to critical of your actions.

So, if you find you don't get enough support from your family, rejoice. It will force you to take your project elsewhere, and develop a tronger more resilient sense of self.



Barbara Sher's family support tips:
- Let them get mad. But stick to your guns

- Have Family goal conference

- Let them know that housework will take a beating. And that from now on, everyone willl have to chip in a little more.

- Try to share ownership of your plans



Djaimox tip:
If your stuck in a subordinant position in an authoritarian family:
Don't reveal your plans. it will only lead to greater resistance. Cultivate distretion
Try to get out of there as quickly as possible. Authoritarian environments are poisonous for inovation and creativity. Pile your money and get out.


 

The buddy system : teaming up for success

1- Your buddy expectes you to work on your dreams.
2- You give one another emotional support
3- You provide practical help for one another

The weekly buissness meeting.
Meet your buddy once a week. talk about what you've accomplished so far. Where you're at. Have a hard-times session if necessary. Brainstorm and Barn-raise to make things work.

The 3 minute booster phone call.
Keep it short. If the yes but game emerges, don't try to solve the problem. Move into hard times mode. Once the stom has cleared, say: "Tell me what I can do to help you".




Intensive care: helping someone stick to their goal when they find themselves in a crisis point.
Crisis point 1
At the beginning: This is all too new to you

Crisis point 2
When you have to do something you don't want to do but needs to be done in order to reach your goal.When you face the jump to a new level of risk or visibility.




Now your ready to dealing with success




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Recommended readings:


Barbara Sher
Wishcraft