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Success

Learn to live with it
and
help others attain it.


Bliss comes to the one who does not cling to the fruits of his actions
-Bagavad-Gita






"Winning is getting what you want (your wish your fantasy your dream). Not what your father and mother wanted for you....."
Peter Clerin











 



Barbara Sher recommends to do the following to deal with success:

1- Hurray for me! Don't let anyone tell you that there's anything wrong with self-congratulation. When you've done something hard , you deserve cheers, from yourself and everyone around you.

2- Fake it till you get used to success. No matter how long you've waited for it, success always comes before you're ready for it. Make this resolution: I will not sabotage myself, no matter how much I may want to.

Two tips for faking it:
- 1 Have a hard times session. Express your hysteria.
- 2 Dress for the part even if you don't feel like it.

3- Focus on immediate success. The success you get from the step you have accomplished up to this point. Forget long-term success. You might be disappointed or too busy to savor it when it comes. But the immediate success you can savor right now.

Living with success: The art of making it easier on yourself

"All winning is a process not an end in itself. As soon as you get out on your path, you're doing it. Each small step should feel like success."
- Barbara Sher

 

 

 
Helping others according to Maimonides
    Levels of tzedakah
Maimonides, in his Mishneh Torah defined the following eight levels of charity, each greater than the next:



Level 1(lowest) Reluctance
To give begrudgingly.
Giving unwillingly.

Level 2 Proportion
To give less to the poor than is proper, but to do so cheerfully (katrina).
Giving willingly, but inadequately.


Level 3 Solicitation
Handing over money to the poor after being asked.
Giving adequately after being asked.


Level 4 Shame
To hand money to the poor before being asked,
but risk making the recipient feel shame.
Giving charity before being asked.



Level 5 Boundaries
To give to someone you don't know but allow your name to be known (children's foundations)
Giving charity publicly to an unknown recipient.

Level 6 Corruption
To give to someone you know,
but who doesn't know from whom he is receiving help
Giving charity anonymously to a known recipient.


Level 7 Anonymity
To give to someone you don't know, and to do so anonymously.
Giving charity anonymously to an unknown recipient.


Level 8( highest ) Responsibility
The gift of self reliance.
To hand to someone a gift or a loan, or to enter into a partnership with him,
or to find work for him, so that he will never have to beg again.

Giving a poor person work (or loaning him money to start a business) so he will not have to depend on charity. This is because the person is now free from having to rely on charity. The giver has not just helped the recipient for the short while, but instead for the rest of their life.

There are four sub-levels to this:
Giving a poor person work.
Making a partnership with them (this is lower than work, as the recipient might feel he doesn't put enough into the partnership).
Giving a loan.
Giving a gift.


Sources:
book: Rambam's ladder, Julie Salamon
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rambam%27s_ladder

   Spread your success:

Help others.
If you got a friend who's trying to get out of a hard place, tell him: "come on! stop crying in your beer, get-up from your chair and follow me! your friendship is precious to me. If I made it, so can you! Let me help you ! "

or
Let the person come to you. Do not bombard the person with suggestions that she didn't ask for. This will enable you to remain discrete. And avoid those who are jealous of your success.

But always be ready to give advice to those who come to you for help.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is help a person lest off some steam through a hard times session. Once the hard times session finished, the person will be ale to see solutions and receive solutions from you.


When helping those who are discouraged

- Be patient. Expect to repeat yourself over and over again.
- Lead by example. Be an inspiration to those that are discouraged
- Send "positive vibes"


on s'en fout
sest pas important
cest pas a toi de faire ca
tu veux sauver le monde
jai ma vie a vivre
occupes- toi pas des probleme des autres
je suis de passage
je me fout de l'état fu monmde que je legue au generation futur




There is no competition

Competing with others only brings out those qualities and skills that you will need to be just ahead of the person you're competing against.

Competition does not bring out the best in people

Competitions can be used by people in power to protect themselves from those who could undermine their authority.

If you compete against others one day you'll inevitably meet someone who is better than you. This leads to discouragement and resentfulness.

Focus on what you're doing
Focus on giving it your best.
If you need to surpass someone to stay motivated, surpass yourself.


 


Unswoosh everything
Use your success to improve the products you sell and/or make life easier for humankind. Make the world a better place. For more on this, check out the Unswoosher page




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Recommended readings:
 


Julie Salamon
Rambam's ladder


Lao tzu
Tao-te-ching


Barbara Sher
Wishcraft